I really struggle with those people that don’t agree with me. When I think I have something to offer or do something that I think is good, it really bothers me when others disagree. How can I handle rejection better?
I have met very few people that look forward to rejection, but I do know one or two. No one likes to be rejected so why would some people say they are ok with being told no?
Speaking from my experience, those that are ok with the “no’s” are those that understand one fundamental concept; the person is not telling YOU no, they are saying no to the idea or object you are putting forth to them—not you! If you can grasp that concept, it should reduce the sting of rejection.
A wise associate of mine once told me that he likes to get no’s because it reduces the time it takes to get to the yes’s.
My suggestion is that when you receive a no, don’t throw up the walls and let emotions keep you from an opportunity to create value for yourself. Be inquisitive about why the no. Find out what is behind the no. Is it something you did or how you did it? Is it something about the idea or item? Is it something about the person saying no? Don’t be afraid to find out the reason; that is where your nugget of value sits and waits for you to find it.
Use the reason for the rejection as your new intelligence for finding more yes’s and it will open many more doors of opportunity for you.
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